The Proposal
If you said yes then It should only take a good 6 months before you both walk actually walk down the aisle. DONT sit back and wait! SNAP INTO ACTION! If its gonna be longer than 6 months I would suggest you not say yes!
Your going to need a series of counseling secessions if you want it to last more than a year. Most priest wont marry you without counseling. Don't skip this!!! Its very important, you will need it for future issues! You need professional when your talking till death do you part people!
A Humorous way to look at marriage.
So you just sentenced yourself to a life long lock down! You walked down that aisle and said guilty as charged, and they ain't cut you no slack, the judge was mean, the jury, and your family saw the whole crime. Well join the club "pray, pray, pray!!" Since you've locked yourself up you have to make it the best jail sentence as possible! (Thats why you choose your warden) Stay on track, keep up with your sentence, count the days, and make it last!
Lets talk about the financial Side.
"THRU RICH OR POOR"---- Remember that.
This is the thing people, If Im rich and my spouse is rich its easy for you both to say, "screw you guys, Im going home" or "You know what, lets call it off" Or, "I want a Divorce"
Why is that, because money makes two big headed people cocky! Even
Fame! Here is your solution.. Take your money/fame and marry it, stop waisting peoples time!
For the folks that want to make it work try renewing your vows! That means more counseling!!! Swallow your pride cause if you got in an accident and was in critical condition the one you married is responsible for your well being. Some folks get married because the chemistry was good, Be carful cause if you think that was good, picture things at there worst. You have to come to common ground guys. Manage all anger and aggression and hold hands while the storm is blowing. It will pass.
If one person is more finically stable than the other, don't treat them like there not your equal! Where you lag they conquer. Play fair, support their dreams, goals, and work together!! When you get married there is no more "my" now its "us/ours." If your thinking prenup then O.K,, Sounds like a marriage contract, after two years "if your still together" evaluate your relationship. Some people say/think marriage is a business, I say whatever, just don't let your right one pass you by while your playing around. Keep it real with yourselves and take control of your marriage situations as a team. Your friends, not enemies.
If your both on the fritz, do the opposite of everything you've been doing!! It'll work! You both just need a lil coaching! Don't live in fear, what you scared of? Get out there an fight, "1,2,3, Break!!!!"
All In All
Marriage is a bond between two people. Its just like saying "I would love to have you hear thru it all, no leaving, I hate you, I love you, I'm going to kick your azz, I miss you, Where you going, Get over here, and a shoulder to cry on. Its not a big deal, just make it work. Divorces should be looked upon as the equivalent to someone dropping out of school. you will only get so far regardless of it all. No one can hold you back, but yourself.
J.R.
